diff --git a/xwords4/relay/states.cpp b/xwords4/relay/states.cpp
index 6b7c51064..5834a1457 100644
--- a/xwords4/relay/states.cpp
+++ b/xwords4/relay/states.cpp
@@ -96,7 +96,10 @@ StateTable g_stateTable[] = {
     { XW_ST_CONNECTING,        XW_EVENT_HEARTMSG,    XW_ACTION_NOTEHEART,     XW_ST_CONNECTING },
     { XW_ST_ALLCONNECTED,      XW_EVENT_HEARTMSG,    XW_ACTION_NOTEHEART,     XW_ST_ALLCONNECTED },
 
-    { XW_ST_CONNECTING,       XW_EVENT_NOTIFYDISCON,     XW_ACTION_NOTIFYDISCON,    XW_ST_DEAD },
+    /* I think we need a state XW_ST_SOMEMISSING.  The game can't be played,
+       but we're open to XWRELAY_RECONNECT (but not to XWRELAY_CONNECT) */
+    { XW_ST_CONNECTING,       XW_EVENT_NOTIFYDISCON,     XW_ACTION_NOTIFYDISCON,    XW_ST_CONNECTING },
+    { XW_ST_ALLCONNECTED,     XW_EVENT_NOTIFYDISCON,     XW_ACTION_NOTIFYDISCON,    XW_ST_ALLCONNECTED },
     { XW_ST_DEAD,             XW_EVENT_NOTIFYDISCON,     XW_ACTION_NOTIFYDISCON,    XW_ST_DEAD },
     { XW_ST_DEAD,             XW_EVENT_REMOVESOCKET,     XW_ACTION_REMOVESOCKET,    XW_ST_DEAD },